In last week’s episode I mentioned that I call the process of reflecting on the past year and creating intentions for the new one REVIEW, REFLECT + ALIGN.
Today we dive into the alignment part, because when we are in alignment, if feels damn good.
When we are happy, what’s often going on is that our outside world is in alignment with our inside world
There is consistency, integrity, with what we value and how we are living our lives
So when we think about what we want to create in the next year, it’s important to first get clear about what our core values are.
The quintessential self-compassion question I often ask you to ask yourself in difficult times is, “What do I need?”
But we really can’t fully answer that question unless we also know what we value most. What we want.
So some of you might ask: Wait – what’s the difference between goals and core values?
First, goals can be achieved; whereas core values guide us towards and after achieving our goals.
Goals are destinations; core values are directions.
Goals are something we “do”; values are something we “are.”
Goals are set by us; core values are discovered. We discover them as we have life experiences and notice, “Oh that – that is important to me.”
Some examples of core values are:
And you may notice that what first comes to mind when we think of core values is having to do with how we treat others, but many also have to do with meeting personal needs that are deeply important to us… but may not be so important to others.
Some examples of personal core values are:
:: Personal growth
In this episode I guide you through an activity that helps you get clear about your core values, and how to live a life that is more aligned with who you are and how you want to show up in the world.
I also teach you how to get back on track then you’ve strayed away from how you want to show up in the world.
And you know that whole Word of the Year thing you may have heard about? This is a method to help you figure out what yours is.
Once we’ve gotten clear about our core values, and once we’ve reflected and learned from the past…
NOW we are ready and ripe to create our intentions for the new year in a way that is truly ALIGNED with who we are and the life we want to create.
When you go through this process, you don’t waste time, money and energy on goals that don’t serve your highest purpose.
It can help you avoid focusing on things that you’ll end up realizing – way later – that they weren’t what you really wanted or needed.
Whatever your value is that you want to devote yourself to, that can guide you.
And when you commit to this – devote yourself to this – making it happen is as Good. As. done.
In this episode you’ll learn:
:: What alignment has to do with you feeling like sh*t
:: Why you MUST know what you want to live an aligned life
:: How to discover what your core values are
:: How to identify and overcome obstacles to living the life we are meant to live
:: The point of doing the whole “Word of the Year” thing – and how to fidn your OWN!
// Is your word of the year Adventure? Have a listen to Episode 31 here.
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